Although both men and women have the same mechanisms based on sexual hormones, sexual behaviour and sexuality in both sexes vary widely. There's a biological and psychological explanation.
On the one hand, men produce much more female genital hormones, which are responsible for the sexual activity. Women (and males in nature) are therefore more resilient and calm in sexual disturbances. On the other hand, our upbringing is such that the image of an AKTI male and a PASSIVE woman has become models of behaviour. Since childhood, these models have been modelled for emulation. Paradox: Girls get caught in a sexual relationship earlier than boys, but boys get a lot faster to feel really sexy, not just romantic love. On the other hand, while girls start sex before boys, men experience orgasms, starting with the first semen and every ejaculation, and women are not always and never in life. But if a man without an orgasm does not seek to communicate (and multiplication), millions of women are pregnant, born, raising perfectly healthy children without orgasm, and sometimes without suspicion of having something like this. In short, it seems that men and women have been thrown at Earth from different planets -- they are different.
The biologists believe that the feminine nature has not, in principle, overshadowed orgasm, but only aroused, because the female is so important to continue the kind that has no right to lose his head even at the moment of passion. Well, it's like cats, but during the siege, a cat can shake a man and throw behind a mouse, and a cat just doesn't notice what's going on around here.
After the biologists, psychologists say that women ' s orgasm is the answer to men ' s orders: if society (and, above all, men) is positive about women ' s dust, if not only passive participation is valued, but satisfying, as proof of the value and skills of a man, then more and more passionate, easy-to-going women in an orgasm. On the other hand, with a strict, limited upbringing, in the life of a Puerto Rican society, a woman not only dreams of some kind of pleasure but is not capable of doing so.
For example, women born before 1920 experienced orgasm at a constant or often three times less than those born after 1950. It can be said that two generations of sensual women have three more. In addition, the number of women enjoying and actively participating in loopholes, including those with little regard to grandparents, increased two to three times.
The sexuality of a person consists of two parts: the desire to live a sexual life and the ability to do so in society.
The first part depends on the sex hormones and the second on the upbringing. The combination of both results in young girls being held longer than boys in a beautiful country of romantic love, distracting souls, not knowing that their bodies are hiding behind them. While teenage boys are already experiencing sexual harassment and relaxation, girls and girls are still living in a spiritual, perfect, intelligent world.
However, while desires burn young men, girls start sexual relations on average between 1.5 and 2 years earlier.
Alas, if 90 per cent of young men start sexual activity under the hormonal burial, 70 per cent of girls are less than men ' s circumstances or perseverance than their own desire. In the meantime, the vast majority of women do not have an orgasm for the first time, but sexual initiation. And only by gaining her own positive experience, a woman is being tried definitively. Maybe not. ♪ ♪
Although the number of women experiencing orgasms during the first 10 years of spousal (regular) sexual activity is 4 times higher, by 40 years, there are often or always 1/3 women in orgasm, about half of the 1/3, rarely or never - 1/3. Women were therefore invented by an indicator such as " per cent of orgasm " , i.e., how many times the relationship ends in an orgasm. The majority of women can at least roughly determine this figure based on 10 relationships. It is believed that even 50 per cent orgasm is a very good indicator, which means that half of the relationship ends for women.
Usually, women are treated with 30, 20, even 10 per cent.
At the same time, almost every woman knows what an orgasm is. He can come into play with straws, erotic or sexual fantasies, masturbation, sleep, washing or singing, at the moment of joy or fear, riding or cycling, etc.
Additional sources of orgasms
Two main sources of extra-conventional (uncommunity) orgasm are dreams and masturbation.
Sex dreams can be divided into two groups, Freud and Pavlov. Freudistic dreams are all kinds of hints and symbols, for example, sea - communication, something long and thin - penis, something in the vagina.
Okay, Men ' s symbols include pencil, pipe, gun, car♪ The woman's hat, the box, the empty room. The fall of hair or teeth is the fear of masturbation, self-respecting in the mirror - the desire of the incest.
In short, there is a dictionary of symbols. If there's something sexy - sexual organs, relationships, loops, it's not a sexy dream, it symbolizes something else.
But... Pavelov The dream reflects the urgent need of the organism itself, and therefore it is interpreted literally and straightforwardly: what you see is that dream. From this point of view, it is very interesting to interpret women ' s sexual dreams as a manifestation of so-called psycho-sexual ripeness. Without going into detail, a person is going through certain stages of sexual relations, including the last three stages of a platonic, erotic, sexual activity. This occurs in about 11 to 13, 13 to 15, 15 to 20 years, although sexual activity may never occur, and it is not an orgasm in the event of a communication.
Now, if a woman dreams a magical dream - a sea, palms, a glass of wine and, although there is no contact (and a man himself), all of this is arousing and perhaps an orgasm, it can be said that a woman has been delayed in her development at the platonic stage.
If the instigation and orgasm against the scene of the laske and kissing scenes, the delay occurred at the stage of erotic libide (no need for sexual contact).
If anything happens, but it ends with an orgasm, there is no delay, and there is no neurosis, which makes it impossible to wake up properly when a head is working on the whole cage.
And if there's an orgasm in the dream, it's getting worse, but at the last moment, a woman is awake, and her neurosis is so strong that she can't even give up in her sleep.
Orange at masturbation
In fact, dreams of orgasm have been taken by virtually all women, but at different ages, at different frequencies, depending on the availability and intensity of sexual life.
The masturbation orgasm is both good and bad. The masturbation itself is not a pathology, but it distinguishes ADAPTIENU and DESALAPTIVE masturbation, i.e. whether it helps with sex or not. Men tend to have an adaptive masturbation - a man creates a penis loop that starts to reversing the axis, simulating the movement of a member into the vagina. The majority of young people in the first relationship, therefore, fall into a normal situation and the usual reflex chain gives a normal and pleasant result.
Many women have masturbation in a decontaminational manner - rhythmic compression of some inner muscles, bruising of legs with a belly stress, a chair, a bicycle ride, a stream of water on the floor. Using such a sequence of events, the body neglects the feelings that occur when it comes to sexual contact, which makes it impossible to reach an institution sufficient to move to orgasm. Adaptive options are only two: rhythmic thrusts on the forehead or clitoris; rhythmic effects of some object (from finger to vibrator) in the vagina.
There's another nasty side of masturbation. There is often a certain chain of reflexes that are closed to itself, while in partnership sex, this chain is tied through a partner. In such cases, a woman who easily seeks an orgasm in masturbation may complain that a man ' s presence distracts her, annoys her, prevents her from giving up her entire life.
Unlike a man, for women orgasm - not a mandatory component of sexual acts♪ A man has a clear set of "the eruption-orgasm" of the state-of-the-the-art. Normally, there's no eruption without an orgasm, just like the other way around. And together, naturally, they bring satisfaction - at least physical. A woman has no eruption and her orgasm and satisfaction have been dispersed.
I mean, unlike a man, it's not two, but three, "orgasm-degradation," "no orgasm, no satisfaction, no orgasm.
The Latin is called satisfactio sine orgasmo - satisfaction without orgasm. I mean, it's growing, growing, but not moving into orgasms, but it's gradually waking up, leaving it with satisfaction, relaxation and peace. This option is considered to be NORM. A strong NENORMO is considered to be a situation where, after the intercourse, a woman feels unsatisfactory, causing pains at the bottom of the stomach and the lumbar, irritation, i.e. physical and psychological inconvenience.
It's called FRUSTRASIA. The blood flow to sexual organs is not replaced by a rapid outflow, as in an orgasm, but remains a long stalemate, which gives the symptoms listed and many others. Constant frustration not only prevents a woman, but can also contribute to the growth of uterine memoma, endomosis, inflammation of dowry and pelvic nerves (by type of radiculitis).
Well, if there's no excitement, orgasm or frustration, there's nothing to do with the doctors here, that woman doesn't suffer. If she doesn't actively seek help, she lives calmly.
It's a lot to ask if you're experiencing an orgasm, a woman with a lazy cliché says, "I don't know what it is, tell me, maybe I do." They say, "Who didn't test, you won't explain, and who tried, he won't get confused."
But you can say, orgasm is not an accusation, it's very pleasant, too, but he's a real new state that comes at the top of the excitement. And then you'll have to deal with it. One American psychologist has collected a collection of over 600 self-definitions for women's orgasm. We don't. We're gonna have to go. So an orgasm is a very personal matter. Moreover, many women have a few types of orgasm, one in masturbation, one in sleep, and one in sleep. Some are changing orgasm with age or change of partner. Words, women. ♪ ♪
"Orgasm (Greek torment, dust passion) is a feeling of sexual pleasure, sweetness at the time of the sexual act or other forms of sexual discharge." Why at the end? What's sweetness? And a million questions. So with official definitions, we'll end up as incomplete. There are no informal definitions, but there are a lot of stories and attempts to express emotions and experiences, that is, strictly individual moments that, in principle, no one else can understand.
1. Rhythmic reductions in vaginas, from which concentration waves flow in hot heat throughout the body.
2. The waves of heat coming from the poppy to the stain.
3. The same waves, but from five to head.
4. The heat starts somewhere in the field of the belly, then everywhere.
5. It's tense and the body's blowing up and it's like something explodes inside.
6. Loss of body, place, time, space, then gradual return.
7. There's a sense of despair for some vagina fluid. And so on... ♪
Women ' s orgasms for ease of classification are divided by:
Longitude: peak, short time (up to 3-5 seconds), long (10-20 seconds), orgasm (status orgasmicus) - long orgasm condition up to a few minutes.
Place of occurrence: clithary, vaginal (vaginal), neck, intermediate, anal, oral, uncertain localization.
In shortness: single, repetitive, wavered (after the peak, reduced excitement, but not to the extent of normal initiation, and again beaten).
Under circumstances: coital (in time of communication), extra-colite in sleep, masturbating. Adequate in cases of sexual stimulation or fantasy; inadequate in non-sexual circumstances - fear, joy, vibration, etc.
There are a lot of opinions and prejudices throughout the described. For example, it is considered that women are more likely to experience peak orgasms than longer.
Orgasmic status is not always a good thing, it can be a long, but weak, and still extinct. The emergence of an orgasm is not always linked to the place of stimulation.
Repeat orgasms, according to another patient, her partner specifically estimated that she had at least 40 plots in 20 minutes of fiction, which she thought was an orgasm; she was certainly not able to distract this account. The vibration orgasm is not meant by the vibrator (i.e. the mood and fantasy) but by some kind of domestic vibration, for example, in a trem or driving through a bald bridge.
An emotionally motivated orgasm - for example, before the examination or, on the other hand, after having a good turn on her.
This latter type of orgasm tends to indicate that a woman needs some extra stirring, because she lacks sex. Speaking of science, she has high vengeance.
What does that mean?
Imagine that the bath and the water are falling on the floor first and then transcending through the front of the bathroom. The fall of water from 5 centimeters is very small. Now imagine the water falls from the height of Dniproges. That's the flow of bones. But before it falls, the water must be soaked as to pass through this high threshold is the dam. So the lower the threshold, the easier the orgasm reaches, but the weaker it is. Conversely, the higher the threshold, the harder the inducement necessary to achieve the orgasm, but the stronger it is. In such a situation, an additional awakening - from fear or joy - plays the role of some elevator that delivers water directly to a high dam, helping to overcome the high threshold unusually. By the way, a lot of women (as well as men) are provoking a scandal in their family life that has become more inspired.
Orgasm can be divided into physiological and emotional parts.
The physiological features are those which usually occur (but not always) in the genital organs: the expansion of the interior of the vagina, the retraction up the uterus, the tightening of the penis to the outside of the vagina, the rhythmic reduction of the vagina between 2-3 and 20-30 cuts with a frequency of about 0.75 sec), the moisture of the vagina. Again, some (or even all) of these signs may not be. And it's very wrong to take orgasms only to these manifestations. The lady often comes and says she doesn't have an orgasm - yes, she flies, yes, she's awfully good, but there's no cuts!
Emotional part of the orgasm hides in the head, it's licking what's going on. You know that the same act, touching, the feeling we consider differently, depending on the situation, mood, partnership, etc. There's an orgasm at the physiological level with all its physical characteristics, but it doesn't cause any EMOTION.
Why, the question is very complicated.
Actually, The women who came after an orgasm are afraid of sex pathologists as fires.because, like a dormitory complaint, there are very often the most serious problems, ranging from the rejection of a loved husband to a modified treatment (homosexual, sadistic and different, not so scary). Most patients with sex pathologists are not pathological at all, but they are also quite hysterical, and most often unknown or incomprehensible to the lady.
For example, a slightly exaggerated desire to expose, somewhere on the brink of exquisiteism, and education (or partner) is not possible. Or a young man who doesn't match his husband. Or slightly more masochistic or sadistic tendencies, which are not just from the partner, but from themselves. This duality of desire and realization is tense, prevents it from relaxing and forgetting, and consequently gives up.
In order to be fully satisfied, including to achieve an orgasm, it is the woman who has to give herself to a man, dissolve himself, forget herself. At that time, there is a great deal of triggering, so there is no overwhelming effect on psychology. But who's gonna give up now? The people are so scared to give up, they don't get back to their place, they use for personal reasons. And it's a shame to give something now, and especially to yourself. A modern woman's life-threatening, and she can't rebuilt in a private moment, or she doesn't want to, but maybe not anyone.
Often, a woman says, "I don't have an orgasm," and in fact she doesn't have a normal sexual life, and that slogan says no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. That's why it's almost impossible to just take it and put it in her orgasm, and we need to deal with a huge problem. Even if a doctor in a survey or a targeted sex therapy is triggering an orgasm for a woman, it won't make her happy - there's still a problem. Sometimes they even add up, it turns out I'm a MOG, and it doesn't work out how unhappy I am... So chasing a bug in the sky sometimes turns out to be a loss.
I can't, I can't.
Or when I imagine myself with someone else, it works, and it's not. Or, with a new partner, I can, and in three times, I'm out. Or I could do with a woman, but not a man. In the words, under certain conditions, yes, and in others, no. It is clear that this is again about the inability of partners to each other, the inconsistency of psychological facilities or the rejection of treatment. What's one partner different from another? Sometimes a woman can't understand it, but it's in this difference that the roots of anorgasmia, and more accurately, what she can't give up. Sometimes, a woman is clearly aware of her difficulties, but she cannot or does not want to resolve them. Husband sucks, but feeds. The lover is old, but useful. The husband stinks of his mouth, but he's the father of the children. I mean, a woman's on a socially acceptable path, but she wants to rip off her orgasm. And eat fish, and don't choke.
Here's the women's orgasm. Something will become clear, including that of men who are often so interested that there seems to be no problem. What to do when this orgasm doesn't exist is to be written separately, there are many options, depending on the origin of the problem.
There's only one who's so obsessed to solve the complexity of women's orgasms like psychoanalysts. It is essential for women to experience orgasm, while others do not, in a sense, care. When a woman has sex with her partner, orgasms play a significant role in their relations. In particular, if a woman ' s partner is a man, then the orgasm of a woman may become a conflict area. Some men belong to the orgasm of their sex partner as a reward for good behaviour, as if she, as a primary school teacher, had to give her own orgasm the partner five for success. And if a partner turns out to be incapable of " passing through " , then he, her sex partner, will not be sure of his own perfection as a lover. Yes, a couple of loving people sometimes belong to an orgasm as a gift to both sides, but some women feel that they have to pay for their relationship every time.
Women ' s bisexuality can lead a man to extreme confusion.
Men ' s desire to be " at height " as lovers had led women to simulate orgasms. Ana Moylenbelt, one of the leading feminists in the Netherlands in the 1960s, has consistently introduced sexual topics in her discussions. At one of the women ' s sexual literacy groups in Anya, she asked whether they had at least once had to fake orgasms. Most members of the group raised their hands. Its purpose was, of course, to compel all to make a firm decision never to be subjected to pressure from " real men " (and it was obvious that all those who raised their hands) but among the other women, those who did not confess to simulating orgasm, many clearly believed that I had never known before? As early as 1848, August Debe issued his book entitled " Gigienne of Marriage " , in which he advised women to simulate orgasms, " since men are pleased to share their pleasure " . In 1950, one of the most popular sex education publications was Yustas Chesser ' s book, " Living without fear " . It can read:
Both partners should play their roles. It should be noted here that any reasonable woman can simulate orgasm. The Eve, which will be able to practice this woman's art to mislead a man without causing any harm to him, will be able to barely understand the great need for it to simulate orgasm so well that it will be practically impossible for a man to understand that the real orgasm has not been real!
But even in 1992, when the writer was praised by the Cosmopolitan magazine, the woman-the author of the article said that it would be unfair not to reward the man who had so much fun with his partner... This article was quoted in detail by researchers from the Faculty of Women ' s Studies of Sydney University. The group then released a work entitled " Simulation or History " . They interviewed small groups of men and women about the simulation of orgasms and concluded that it was difficult for a man to meet a woman...
Fortunately, they remained free, as their own pleasure was automatically achieved, and this was taken care of by men ' s libide. But women have been able to keep men out of doubt about their own achievements. It was clear that women had been able to do so very convincingly because they had been simulating orgasm from time to time, although almost all men interviewed were convinced that their partner with them had reached an ecstasy, and they had no idea that it might be a simulation.
Orgasm simulations can be considered as a product that came into the market because of the incredible demand for it. Anyone who saw a pornographic film clearly noticed that the orgasm that portrayed actresses was extremely uniform, stereotypical, and if the film was seen by women, it was completely unconvincing. Commercial television stations have already produced a number of documentary tapes that have had enough light on this subject, and when an actress from porn is asked during an interview, whether orgasms are in the process of filming or simulation, the answers are very different. In Marlene Gorris, the first time on screens in 1984, an experienced prostitute has recently come to work in a brothel to simulate an orgasm that would look as convincing as possible, but without too much effort:
Nowadays, men, of course, already know that they are sometimes deceived as little... When Harry met Sally (1989), there's a great scene where Sally puts everything in his place: Harry just bragged that he knows for sure when a woman simulates orgasm, he's not going to do anything. In response to this, Sally, in a crowded restaurant where this scene was filmed, is spontaneous orgasm, impressive, rich and sound and rhythm. And in the silence that has come, when she's, like she's never been, dragging wine from her back, the old lady at the next desk says to the waiter, "I'm sorry, the same dish she has!"
In the development of civilization, people have gone far from the cycle of sexual reaction, where sexual behaviour is considered to be an automatic biological process. When two people make love, the process becomes complicated and cultural aspects come forward. Real experience has been deteriorated, and each partner takes into account the expectations of another. However, in the relationship between men and women, there is a danger that they will believe that one is capable of giving away the wishes of another on the grounds that it is alleged that " all women (or: all men) are such " . The stereotypicality of the notions of love games has already taken root in our language: we speak of “preliminary loops”, “orgasms” and “supplying loins”, as if the importance of the various elements of intimate behaviour remains the same for all in the light of the fact that it is recorded once and for all. And the media only perpetuates such perceptions. No film where there's a fairly frank love scene, it only confirms the idea that there's nothing more natural than penetration, and that any woman is so encapsulated by a dynamic natia man that both of them, of course, and orgasm, are tested simultaneously. Film viewers, by habit, present a love scene from the film " Don't look " (1973), which has been filmed not only very frankly, but also extremely aesthetic. However, while the woman is mostly in the top of the sexual act and appears to determine the rhythm and intensity of the movements, this scenario also falls under classical intimacy scenarios.
Two studies particularly illustrated how good orgasm works in close relationships. At the end of 1980, the Dutch sexologist, Willeke Besemer, examined the link between sexuality and power in heterosexual contact. It dealt with two types of problems: women with sex pain; men had problems with erection (in both cases, secondary problems, i.e. missing at the beginning of relationships). Further, she included in the experimental plan women with unexplained belly symptoms and men with drug addictions. It was felt that it was very difficult to recruit participants for the study; for example, in a group of women suffering from abdominal pain, the researcher had to accept that it had not been possible to convince their intimate partners to contribute to the study. We're interested in the problem of women's orgasm. About half of the women in the selected group had regular orgasms, but only a quarter of their partners had a clear picture of the nature of their wife (in love). For example, 44 per cent of men assumed that their partner had an orgasm, although it was only 19 per cent correct. Even when women did not experience orgasm at all with their partners, some husbands considered themselves reasonable that their wives had always reached the peak and had an orgasm.
Bebemer's research field has been limited, and Gerda de Broyne has collected written testimony from a much larger number of women. In 1985, she wrote a book that became an unseller, To make love to a man, is it possible? ”♪ Even earlier, in 1983, in the Zurnale of Sexology and Spousal Care, she printed a huge article: " From masturbation to orgasm with partner: why some women can build bridges and others are not " . The result of this study was to clarify that women did not receive orgasm when they could have been without it.
If a woman wanted to end, if she needed anything to achieve an orgasm, she took care that a lover would do all the things she normally did during the masturbation, that is, stimulation of the clitoris. Normally, classic penetration (up to down) is not enough to achieve orgasm. Women who are relatively easy to experience orgasms with penetration are often more or less circular, which means that friction occurs in the area of sexual lips and clitoris. If you ask random people to give you a definition of coitus (sex relations), you'll probably get that answer: "This is when the penis moves inside the vagina." Practically no one will say that this is the vagina movement around the penis, although for some couples this is a more appropriate description of what is happening. With this kind of love stimulus, time remains a critical factor. On average, every woman needs about five minutes with any kind of incentive to reach orgasm, but many women are obviously struggling to ask them to have time and opportunity to concentrate.
There is a pattern of behaviour that has been mentioned by the researcher de Broyne; it can also be found in the literature. Both sex partners usually accept for prelude, for erotic stimulation, all that is already well known as the most effective means of instigating a woman (i.e. to enable her to achieve orgasm most easily). In practice, this means that when she is close to orgasm, there is a major dish, and the chance to test orgasm is missed. Some women understand very well how they work, but they do not dare at a crucial time to ask their lovers to continue their stimulus until they, partner, are fully satisfied.
De Broine concluded that the actions reported in the films (the main movements are men: " totuda " , inside and outside, and the woman only follows his movements) are not working for most women. It is true that there are women for whom such an order of intimacy is truly the most pleasant, and it is in this group that the sense of proximity, a sense of love, full return, full absorption by another person is considered to be the defining.
De Broine has completed his article with a philosophical conclusion that most couples seem simply not to achieve the classic ideal because their relationship is not sufficiently good, respectful, does not achieve the right equality between partners. And it roots not only in a particular couple, in particular people, but in our culture as a whole. And according to de Broine, there's nothing to be proud of by psychologists or sexologists.
On Taiwan, a gender clash appeared, for example, in the most unexpected way, to be a public mature at the beginning of 2002, when one bubble newspaper began to distribute a secretly video of the mistress of the former mayor of Sinch. Apparently, when she dumped the mayor, he set up mini cameras in the retrieval, which were the scenes of love. So...
The men unanimously found the first 20 minutes of this video so boring and annoying, When women were breathing, they watched the way the love game was going, the prelude they always wanted but never felt. Not for one month, millions of Taiwanese could only discuss this video. Never before has there been such a clear clash between men and women.
The most common types of female orgasm are clinical and vaginal. The first variety means the inducement of the clitoris, that is, the outside sexual organ. Such orgasms are usually experienced in masturbation. The vaginal option is less common. This orgasm occurs through domestic stimulus. It's easier to reach during contact with a partner. A woman may also experience mixed orgasm.